There are a multitude of ways that our loved ones connect with us after they have passed. They sprinkle the scent of their favorite perfume (or tobacco) in the room. They twiddle with the lights. They tap you on the shoulder to make sure you know—yes, that’s their song you hear playing over the shopping mall’s audio.
But sometimes you want a little more. You want to feel some sort of connection. You want a knowing they are watching over you.
While you could connect and receive Marvelous Messages™ with a medium, maybe that’s not your thing. Or maybe you are just looking for a quick nod on a blustery, rainy day.
One way to do that is by using an oracle deck. Here’s How:
ACCEPT ME FOR WHO I AM—AS I AM.
Don't ask me to change so that I might fit the expectations of who you desire me to be. Offer me instead the freedom to be all I can.
Your assumptions about me are based on whatever slice of me I've allowed you to see. But that slice is not all of me.
You cannot fully know me. Some days I don't know myself. How can you know me if I don't even know me?
Yet some will base their opinion of me solely on the fragments they've seen.
How can a part equal the whole?
What I do know is that I am as God created me. I am perfectly suited to fulfill the purpose and calling He designated to me. Your feelings about me do not play a role in this, nor do they change who I am.
How I dress, talk, act, live, does not negate my calling. Rather it is merely the costume I wear to individualize myself before God. I am not defined by the color of my skin, the way that I worship, or my sexual orientation. I am measured by God based on how well I fulfill the purpose He gave to me.
Birthing, I came as all others came, that I might fulfill a grander purpose, fill another human's need, or spark a light in this world.
I came craving the freedom to do what I came here to do without the limitations society tries to put upon me.
I came desiring the time and space to hone my craft and practice my gifts so that I might share them with the world and make it a better place to live.
I seek refuge from pain, grief, debt, and the common stresses of life. My heart begs me to move toward my calling, and these harmful strictures restrain me from achieving the greatness I desire—yet I continually strive to overcome them.
Throughout my life, many doors have been closed to me because I have not met the requirements society demands of me to open them. Perhaps I have not been rich enough, smart enough, talented enough, or pretty enough. Therefore, I decree: I AM ENOUGH!
I will create my own doors and pathways to them.
I will rely on my intuitive prowess to guide me where I need to go.
I will surpass the height of those who declare that I am not enough.
I will, at last, accept that I matter.
I will recognize here and now that my confidence grows from standing steadfast within my own beliefs, and not from conforming to the dictates and false judgments of others.
My prior hesitancies have stemmed from my fears of being rejected by society's standards rather than walking within the power of my own, God-given truth.
I now understand that when I operate from the light of my internal guidance, my work is accepted by those who need it the most, and for whom I was created to assist.
Whether or not you choose to see it, I am a wealth of potential. I am overflowing with possibility.
I am continually morphing into new and better version of me.
I am a transformer.
I am powerful.
I am a Swan.
If these words ring true for you, and you want to stand up and show the world you matter, while feeling no regret for being who you came here to be, then I invite you to join me in learning more about the Swan's path. If not, go in peace knowing you are loved.
A friend of mine was diagnosed with breast cancer. I wrote this list to help her and thought it might help others too. This is a list of tips that helped me get through the trying days of treatment and recovery.
• Always make sure you feel confident about your main care provider. If not, change to someone else immediately.
• When choosing a care facility, don’t fall for advertising you’ve seen. Check for reviews including their rate of cure. I never thought to look for reviews when choosing my facility. Reading them opened my eyes to many things.
• Take a spouse, relative, or friend with you to caregiving visits so that you always have someone who can offer support, help you remember what was said, what to ask, and to be an advocate for your care. Sometimes they see things going on with you that you don’t recognize and this can be helpful to your care providers as well as to you.
• Get a handy calendar (or use an electronic one) as you will have lots of dates to keep track of. When you are tired or suffer from brain fog (or chemo brain) it’s hard to remember where to be when. Your calendar can be your friend.
• Keep paper and pencil near all your phones (or carry some in your purse). When you are called with procedure dates or other information, write them down. Include the location and directions (if needed). Ask how you need to prepare for the procedure and/or anything you need to bring (if not already advised). Don’t hesitate to ask the caller to slow down repeat information so you can write everything down.
• Ask about free resources available to you. Sometimes you don’t know what to ask for until you need it. Our local area provided many free services such as massages, reiki treatments, support groups, even a crochet group. There were also free, educational classes. I received a beautiful, free wig.
Last night I had a dream I was in a packed restaurant. It seemed like every time I thought I had found a place to sit and order, something would happen and I would lose my seat. I couldn’t even get a seat with my mom and cousin.
I woke up feeling kind of dejected. It's weird to not really know where you belong or where you fit. It's crazy because I remember when my oldest was in middle school they told him he HAD to know what he was going to be when he grew up. How else would he know what courses to take? He became upset because he didn't have a clue. I kept telling him he didn't have to know. "You can make changes throughout your life,” I told him.
And here I am in my late fifties finding myself in the same position. Where do I fit? What should I be doing now? Where do I belong? I feel lonely, yet I am not alone. I have a good support team. I think it's more a bit of impatience, wanting to be wholly well and not, wanting to be free to be, and not. I know all these things take time, and I am getting there, I'm just not there yet.
I have a feeling that in a few months I will look back on this and laugh. I’ll have found whatever my “thing” is for this life’s era. I will be happy. I will feel fulfilled. I know this because that’s what happens in the void. It comes. It brings darkness, and then, like the eclipse, the light returns.